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我只是开个玩笑

笑声里，也要听见你

家庭成长约 7 分钟4-8 岁中英双语

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午后，大家在院子里玩接球。乐乐没接稳，球轻轻滚到了花盆旁。安安忍不住笑了一声。

One afternoon, the children played catch in the courtyard. Lele missed, and the ball rolled gently beside a flowerpot. An'an gave a little laugh.

午后，大家在院子里玩接球。乐乐没接稳，球轻轻滚到了花盆旁。安安忍不住笑了一声。

One afternoon, the children played catch in the courtyard. Lele missed, and the ball rolled gently beside a flowerpot. An'an gave a little laugh.

安安给乐乐起了个和动作有关的外号。旁边的朋友笑起来，她以为大家都觉得有趣。

An'an made up a nickname about how Lele moved. A friend laughed, so she thought everyone found it funny.

乐乐弯腰捡起球，没有笑。他小声说：“还是叫我乐乐吧。”声音比院子里的风还轻。

Lele picked up the ball without smiling. “Please call me Lele,” he said softly, almost quieter than the breeze.

安安没有听清。第二次传球时，她又喊了那个外号。乐乐抱住球，眼睛看着地面。

An'an did not catch what he said. The next time she passed the ball, she used the nickname again. Lele held the ball and looked down.

傍晚，乐乐说要回家。安安觉得奇怪：“以前他总想再玩一会儿，今天怎么这么早？”

At dusk, Lele said he was going home. An'an wondered why. He usually wanted to play a little longer.

第二天，安安招手叫他一起玩。乐乐摇摇头，坐在长椅上，把小车推来推去。

The next day, An'an waved for him to join the game. Lele shook his head and rolled a toy car along a bench.

“你是不是生气了？”安安问。乐乐停下小车：“我不喜欢你那样叫我。”

“Are you upset?” An'an asked. Lele stopped the car. “I don't like it when you call me that.”

“我只是开个玩笑呀。”安安脱口而出。乐乐把手放在车上：“可是我没有觉得好玩。”

“I was only joking,” An'an blurted out. Lele rested his hand on the car. “But it wasn't fun for me.”

回家时，安安把这件事告诉妈妈：“我没有想让他难过。”妈妈先听她说完。

On the way home, An'an told Mom what happened. “I didn't mean to make him sad.” Mom listened until she finished.

妈妈说：“你没有想伤害他，和他确实难过了，这两件事可以同时发生。现在你已经知道他的感受了。”

Mom said, “You didn't mean to hurt him, and he did feel hurt. Both can be true. Now you know how he feels.”

安安想起乐乐低着头的样子。原来大家的笑声很响，也会把一个人的不愿意盖住。

An'an remembered Lele looking down. Everyone's laughter had been loud enough to cover one person's discomfort.

第二天，她走到乐乐面前：“我听见你说不喜欢了。我会停下来，以后叫你的名字。”

The next day, she went to Lele. “I heard that you don't like it. I'll stop and use your name.”

“昨天我说只是玩笑，好像你的难过不算数。对不起。”安安没有伸手拉他，等着他说话。

“When I said it was just a joke, it sounded like your feelings didn't matter. I'm sorry.” An'an waited without pulling him closer.

乐乐说：“我现在还不想玩球。”安安点点头：“好。你想自己待一会儿也可以。”

“I don't want to play ball yet,” Lele said. An'an nodded. “Okay. You can have some time to yourself.”

过了一会儿，另一个朋友又喊出那个外号。安安马上说：“他不喜欢这样叫。我们叫他乐乐吧。”

A little later, their friend used the nickname again. An'an said at once, “He doesn't like that. Let's call him Lele.”

朋友愣了一下，改口喊：“乐乐，你的小车能过这座桥吗？”安安心里还有点紧张，却松了一口气。

Their friend paused, then asked, “Lele, can your car cross this bridge?” An'an still felt nervous, but also relieved.

乐乐把小车推过积木桥，嘴角慢慢翘起来。安安没有催他原谅，也没有再拿那件事逗他。

Lele rolled his car over the block bridge, and slowly smiled. An'an did not hurry him to forgive her or tease him about it again.

几天后，他们又玩接球。安安先问：“我能说你像一阵快快的风吗？”乐乐笑了：“这个我喜欢！”

A few days later, they played catch again. An'an asked, “Can I say you're as fast as the wind?” Lele smiled. “I like that one!”

球又滚偏了一次，两人一起追过去。这回，乐乐和安安都笑了，笑声一样轻快。

The ball rolled off course again, and both ran after it. This time, Lele and An'an were both laughing freely.

晚上，安安告诉妈妈：“我以后不只听谁笑得大声，还会看看，有没有人没有笑。”

That evening, An'an told Mom, “Next time, I won't only listen to the loudest laughter. I'll notice if someone isn't smiling.”

好玩的玩笑，需要彼此都觉得好玩；伤到了别人，就要停下来。

A joke is fun when everyone enjoys it. If it hurts someone, stop.

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这次不考背诵，练一种生活能力

这本想陪孩子练什么

辨认同伴的反应，练习停止伤人的叫法并修复关系。

共读时别急着说

不要求受伤的孩子笑着接受道歉，也不把外号重复给孩子听来示范。

可以这样问

乐乐没有笑的时候，安安可以怎样做？
道歉以后，还能用什么行动让朋友安心？

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轮流说喜欢别人怎样称呼自己，练习一句“我不喜欢这个叫法，请叫我的名字”。

4–5 岁：先看表情和动作，允许孩子用指画面、点头或简单词语表达感受。

6–8 岁：讨论不同角色的想法和可选择的办法，不把一种选择当成唯一正确答案。

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这本想陪孩子练什么

共读时别急着说

可以这样问

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