日常系列 · 4–8 岁

小小的不愿意

温柔，也可以有边界

家庭成长约 7 分钟4-8 岁中英双语

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安安搭了一座积木车站。最后一根横梁放上去时，她屏住呼吸，车站终于稳稳地站住了。

An'an built a block station. She held her breath as she placed the final beam. At last, the station stood firmly.

安安搭了一座积木车站。最后一根横梁放上去时，她屏住呼吸，车站终于稳稳地站住了。

An'an built a block station. She held her breath as she placed the final beam. At last, the station stood firmly.

她把小车开进去，又开出来。这是她搭了很久的车站，她想让它留到明天。

She drove a toy car in and out. The station had taken a long time to build, and she wanted to keep it until tomorrow.

乐乐来了：“我能拿这些积木搭一架飞机吗？”他指着车站最上面的横梁。

Lele arrived. “Can I use these blocks to build an airplane?” He pointed to the beam at the top of the station.

安安想说“不”，嘴巴却没有动。她怕乐乐觉得她小气，以后不来找她玩了。

An'an wanted to say no, but the word did not come out. She worried Lele would think she was selfish and stop visiting.

“好……吧。”她慢慢说。乐乐以为她同意了，拿下横梁，又搬走了两块支柱。

“I... guess so,” she said slowly. Lele thought she agreed and removed the beam and two supports.

车站变成了一堆积木。安安坐在旁边，手里紧紧握着小车，心里越来越委屈。

The station became a pile of blocks. An'an sat beside it, gripping her toy car and feeling more and more upset.

乐乐问她飞机好不好看。安安只说：“随便。”乐乐也有点不知所措。

Lele asked whether she liked the airplane. “Whatever,” An'an said. Lele did not know what to do.

妈妈来送水，看见安安的表情。她轻声问：“你愿意告诉我，刚才发生了什么吗？”

Mom brought water and noticed An'an's expression. “Would you like to tell me what happened?” she asked softly.

安安说：“我其实不想拆车站，可我又不想让乐乐不高兴。”她终于把心里那句不愿意说了出来。

“I didn't want to take the station apart, but I didn't want Lele to be unhappy,” An'an said. At last, she voiced the no inside her.

妈妈说：“你可以喜欢朋友，也可以想保留自己的作品。说不愿意，不会把你变成坏朋友。”

Mom said, “You can like your friend and want to keep your work. Saying no doesn't make you a bad friend.”

“可是我已经答应了。”安安低下头。妈妈说：“可以把现在的想法说清楚，我们一起处理已经发生的事。”

“But I already said yes,” An'an said, looking down. Mom replied, “You can explain how you feel now, and we can work out what to do.”

安安对乐乐说：“我刚才没说清楚。我还想留着车站，看到它拆了，我很难过。”

An'an told Lele, “I wasn't clear before. I wanted to keep the station, and I felt sad seeing it taken apart.”

乐乐看看积木：“我以为你愿意。对不起。我们一起搭回去吧？”安安点点头，眼睛亮了一点。

Lele looked at the blocks. “I thought you wanted to. I'm sorry. Shall we rebuild it together?” An'an nodded, her eyes a little brighter.

他们把柱子一块块找出来。有一处安安也忘了怎么搭，两人试了几次，才把横梁放稳。

They found the supports one by one. An'an had forgotten one part too. They tried several times before the beam sat firmly.

安安把车站挪到墙边：“这个我今天还想留着。旁边这些积木，你可以拿去搭飞机。”

An'an moved the station by the wall. “I want to keep this today. You can use these other blocks for an airplane.”

乐乐问：“那小车能借我一会儿吗？”安安想了想：“现在可以，等我再玩车站时，请还给我。”

“Can I borrow the car for a while?” Lele asked. An'an thought. “Yes, for now. Please give it back when I want to play with the station.”

后来，安安想坐在乐乐刚搭的飞机旁。乐乐说：“先别碰，我还没搭稳。”安安停住手：“好。”

Later, An'an reached toward Lele's new airplane. “Please don't touch yet. It isn't steady,” he said. She stopped her hand. “Okay.”

两人照样玩得很热闹。一句不愿意，没有把朋友推远，倒让他们更知道彼此在想什么。

They still had a lively time together. A no had not pushed them apart. It helped them understand each other better.

睡前，安安练习了一遍：“这个我想留着。这个现在可以借。”说清楚，比把委屈藏起来舒服多了。

Before bed, An'an practiced. “I want to keep this. You can borrow this one now.” Being clear felt better than hiding her hurt.

第二天，乐乐一来就问：“今天车站可以改建吗？”安安笑着说：“可以，我们先一起想想！”

The next day, Lele arrived and asked, “Can we change the station today?” An'an smiled. “Yes! Let's plan it together first!”

善良可以有边界；照顾朋友，也可以照顾自己。

Kindness can have boundaries. You can care about your friends and yourself.

给大人的共读锦囊

这次不考背诵，练一种生活能力

这本想陪孩子练什么

练习说清楚自己的意愿，也学习听见朋友的拒绝。

共读时别急着说

不要求孩子为拒绝找足够好的理由；同意可以改变，但要清楚告知并商量处理。

可以这样问

安安嘴上答应时，心里是什么感觉？
别人说不愿意时，我们能怎样继续做朋友？

今天试试看

用玩具演练“这个我想留着”“我现在不愿意”，再练习回应“好，我听见了”。

4–5 岁：先看表情和动作，允许孩子用指画面、点头或简单词语表达感受。

6–8 岁：讨论不同角色的想法和可选择的办法，不把一种选择当成唯一正确答案。

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将当前插图、字幕和旁白合成为适合手机分享的竖屏视频。

这本想陪孩子练什么

共读时别急着说

可以这样问

今天试试看

绘本视频

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